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I never thought I would…   Leave a comment

This past weekend, we were around some of our friends who are parents, and we realized all at the same moment that we all call our significant others “mommy” or “daddy.”  For example, I’ll say to my husband, “Daddy, (son’s name) needs a diaper change.”  My husband will say, “Mommy, (son’s name) is hungry.”  When my friends and I all realized we were doing that, we laughed because there was a time in all of our lives before we had kids where we thought this was ridiculous and completely cliche.  I remember telling my husband that we’ll never be THOSE parents who call each other mommy and daddy.  That was certainly short-lived.  I think we started doing that a day or so after my first son was born.

This leads me to think about the other things I used to think I would never do once I had children…  Things that I always frowned upon when I saw other parents doing them.

1.  I never thought I would use the TV as a babysitter…ever.  That went right out the window here recently.  If I need to take a shower, change the laundry, hell, do anything away from my toddler, he goes into the Pack n Play and checks out Your Baby Can Read or Elmo for a few minutes.  Now, I’m not one to sit him in front of the TV for hours on end, and I’m still sticking to my guns about not having a TV in his room, but a little bit here and there does not hurt in my opinion.  In fact, he actually learns from Your Baby Can Read.  He repeats the words, does pretty well with his flash cards, sings the songs, and recognizes words and objects that he learned by watching those DVDs.  I’m ok with TV as long as he’s watching shows that are geared toward his age and things that he’ll actually learn from.

2.  I never thought I would allow my children to use binkies…  Hahahahahaha.  I just have to laugh at this.  Now, my first son did not start using one until after he was 3 months old and at my mother-in-law’s house (she watches him full-time).  My second son is 2.5 months old and still doesn’t want one.  So, I certainly have not forced it with either of them and I was not the one to give my first son his binky.  But, it has been a life saver in some situations…especially in public or when we have company or are at someone else’s house.  He doesn’t use it all the time, but he does use it to calm himself down or even settle down for bed at night…and I’m ok with that too.  We will begin breaking him of it soon, but for now, I’m going to let him use it when he wants.  We do wait for him to ask for it, and here recently, he only asks for it at night before bed.

3.  I never thought I would bribe my children with food…  Yep, that went out the window when my first son started eating Gerber snacks.  Now, I’m not an advocate for overfeeding or using food to make your kids behave, but there have been a few times out in public where he’s been hungry or grumpy, and Gerber Yogurt Melts have saved the day.  In order to get him to calm down and not scream at a store, I pull out the snacks.  We have situations like this at home too.  I’m ok with it as long as I’m giving him something relatively healthy.  At least I’m not giving him Coke or Doritos as I’ve seen some other parents do…even members of my family who I love dearly.  Not going to happen.  My son has not had a taste of a soft drink…he likes milk, juice, and water, and mostly prefers water.

4.  I never thought I would use a “leash.”  Now, let me preface this by saying I haven’t used one yet and do not own one for my kids.  However, I’m in the market for one soon.  With a new baby, it has been a little challenging to go out in public with my toddler…especially if I’m by myself.  We do have a Chicco double stroller and it has been wonderful to use, but there are times when my older son doesn’t want to be in it but I’m having to take care of my little baby…challenging.  I’m scared to death of my older son running away or being snatched or running into traffic.  I honestly don’t really believe he’d run away from me, but you never know, and I think these leash things offer peace of mind to parents, and in crazy times like these, a little peace of mind goes a long way.

5.  I never thought I would get frustrated with my children.  What I mean by this is, I come from a broken home with abusive parents, and I in no way ever want to be like them…ever.  I’ve also seen parents out in public disciplining their very small children for being curious or throwing food.  I have found myself here lately (out of frustration and exhaustion) raising my voice at my toddler or wanting to yank him forcefully away from the back of the couch he is climbing on.  I start to get frustrated but then remind myself that I don’t want to be THAT mom…moms I’ve seen in public…my own mom.  So, I’ve learned to lower my voice, and talk gently to my toddler and let him know that what he is doing is wrong/dangerous/not nice and that he’s hurting mommy’s feelings.  I even put him in time out yesterday…and it got to him.  He cried.  I made him sit beside me for a minute and once it was over, he hugged and went on his way.  This part of raising children is so new to me and scary…  My toddler is starting to say no and defy me a bit, and this is the part of raising children my parents were HORRIBLE at, and I’m so worried I’ll end up like them in some way.  Now, I’ll never beat my children with a belt, shoes, fly swatters, you name it.  I’ll never call them bastards, bitches, the dreaded c word, or anything else my parents called me.  And, I’ll never let the family dog attack them. That’s right, that happened to me repeatedly from ages 12 to 14 and I’ll never forget it.  I’ll have to save some of that for another post…there’s a lot of scary stories coming your way.  So, yes, when I was pregnant, I thought, I’ll never get frustrated and never let my kids see me get frustrated.  But, I’m not perfect and it has started, but I am making a conscious effort every.single.day to NOT be like my parents and NOT let my children hear or see the frustration.  I mean, I don’t want them grow up and blog about me, right??!  At least not in a negative way 😉

So, there you have it.  Just a few of the things I never thought I would do before I became a parent.  It’s amazing how our children turn our lives completely upside down isn’t it?  We do and say things we never thought we would.  Our lives become about our children. We realize that the choices we make every day will affect our kids.  But, we wouldn’t have it any other way.

What are some things you never thought you would do that have been thrown out the window now that you have kids?

All the best,

Someone’s mom